Similarly, when people offer their services to potential clients, without self belief that they are ‘the right person for the job’ and that they can truly help the client, they can fail in closing the deal or booking a client. If you do not believe in yourself and your services, products, and expertise, how can you expect other people to believe in you or your products?
Low self worth can have devastating effect on our relationships. When I would discuss during the life coaching sessions with my clients about their ideal romantic partner, we would often discover their hidden limiting belief, rooted in low self worth:
“I wouldn’t have much to offer to that type of man!”
“That type of man would be hard to keep”.
I have to say that all of them had ‘a lot to offer’ in a relationship, but the problem was that they did not believe that they do, just like people with the impostor syndrome do not believe that they deserve the success they have achieved, or the woman who was admired by the whole world for her beauty (Marilyn Monroe) could not ‘see’ how beautiful she was in the mirror. People who lack self worth often end up being taken advantage of in relationships, because they do not truly feel worthy of love.
Lack of self worth leads to forming limiting beliefs that we are not good enough, and deserving of love, success, wealth, happiness… Lack of self worth negatively affects our self respect. How can we feel respect towards someone we do not consider to be ‘worthy enough’ and ‘good enough’? Lack of self worth crushes our self confidence, because we can not feel confident in ourselves (have strong self belief), if we do not feel worthy enough and good enough to achieve our goals.
There is lot of conversation about self love nowadays, but how can we love ourselves if we do not consider ourselves worthy, we condemn ourselves, punish ourselves, sabotage ourselves, criticise ourselves, and constantly judge and devalue ourselves?
Money is a symbol of value exchange, so therefor our self worth is very tightly correlated to our net worth (the amount of money we earn). How can we have a lot of money (symbol of value exchange) if we do not value ourselves? If we do not believe that we are worthy what we charge for, we can subconsciously sabotage our financial success and fall into the vicious cycle of under-earning.
No matter how much effort we put into achieving our goals and how good strategy we have, our mindset, our subconscious beliefs, and our self worth are the crucial factor that will determine if we are going to be successful and achieve our personal and professional goals, or not. Therefor, no matter what goals my clients may be having, I always work with them on strengthening their self worth first, as that is the foundation of success in any area of our life.