Using affirmations as a tool for changing beliefs has been a popular practice dating back to 19th century, when French pharmacist and psychologist Émile Coué introduced them in his therapy method called ‘optimistic suggestion’. His most known affirmation was:
‘Every day, in every way, I’m getting better and better.’
Other popular affirmations by Coue are:
“My life is now dominated by joy, piece, calm, and appreciation.”
“I deeply feel the joy of being alive and I feel good about being me.”
“I release all negative emotions, thoughts, and beliefs. I focus on gratitude for my life as is.”
“Success, happiness, and wellbeing are for me and I embrace them fully.”
“I strengthen my positive feelings with a strong vision of my beautiful future.”Affirmations have gained a lot of popularity over past centuries thanks to spiritual teachers of New Thought movement, and teachings on Universal Laws, Law Of Attraction, the power of the subconscious mind, and documentary movie “The Secret”.
In the book ‘The Biology Of Belief’ , dr. Bruce Lipton writes:
When it comes to sheer neurological processing abilities, the subconscious mind is more than a million times more powerful than the conscious mind. If the desires of the conscious mind conflict with the programs in the subconscious mind, which “mind” do you think will win out? You can repeat the positive affirmation that you are loveable over and over or that your cancer tumour will shrink. But if, as a child, you repeatedly heard that you were worthless and sickly, those messages programmed in your subconscious mind will undermine your best conscious efforts to change your life. Remember how quickly your last New Year’s resolution to eat less food fell by the wayside as the aroma of the baking turkey dissolved your resolve?
I believe the greatest problem we face is that we think we are running our lives with the wishes, desires, and aspirations created by our conscious mind. When we struggle or fail to obtain our goals, we are generally led to conclude that we are victims of out- side forces preventing us from reaching our destination. However, neuroscience has now established that the conscious mind runs the show, at best, only about 5 percent of the time. It turns out that the programs acquired by the subconscious mind shape 95 percent or more of our life experiences. (Szegedy-Maszak 2005)”
Strengthening our self worth and replacing negative self talk and programming that we adopted subconsciously about ourselves is the essential step in the process, and affirmations can be used as a helpful tool to help us replace negative self talk with empowering self talk.
If we want to change our beliefs, it is very important to observe our self talk, our thoughts about ourselves and our life, and our everyday communication. Along with using the affirmations we resonate with, we need to replace our negative self talk with empowering self talk, and let go of self criticism, because every negative word or thought about ourselves will ‘affirm’ our unworthiness.
Although affirmations are, with no doubt, a powerful tool for changing our beliefs, and if used regularly, they can help us in increasing self worth and self confidence, we need to have in mind that just by repeating a few affirmations a few times a day, might not be enough, because everything that we say and every thought that we think throughout the day – is an affirmation! We are ‘affirming’ 24/7!
Therefor, if we want to increase our self worth, self love, and self confidence, it is very important to oversee our self talk, our thoughts about ourselves and our life, and our everyday communication. Along with using the affirmations we resonate with, we need to replace our negative self talk with empowering self talk, start talking about ourselves more positively, and let go of self criticism, because every negative word or thought about ourselves will ‘affirm’ how unworthy we are.
Affirmations can be spoken out loud in from of the mirror, or throughout of the day. You can write them down in your journal or morning planner. You can also add them onto your vision board, or wear T-shirts, or necklaces or bracelets with messages like “SELF LOVE”, “LOVE”, “LOVE YOURSELF”, “YOU ARE WORTHY”, ‘I AM ENOUGH’.
I love myself more and more each day.
I am worthy.
I am worthy of love.
I am worthy of happiness.
I am worthy of success.
I deserve to be paid well for the value I contribute with my work.
I now charge my worth.
I am enough.
More I respect myself, more others people respect me.
I am deeply grateful for my body, my health, and my unique talents.
I deserve everything good that comes to me.
I chose to honour my boundaries and stand up for myself.
I set healthy boundaries in my relationships.
I value myself and my time.
I love the person who I am becoming.
More I love myself, more love I can give to other people.
When I take good care of me, I can take care of others better.
If you want to increase your self worth, check out my book ‘Self Worth – Women’s Guide To Increasing Self Worth, Self Respect, and Self Confidence’ on Amazon and my online coaching program.
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