Can Affirmations (Really) Help In Increasing Self Worth

can affirmations (really) help in increasing self worth
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Danijela Jokic Vaislay

Using affirmations as a tool for changing beliefs has been a popular practice dating back to 19th century, when French pharmacist and psychologist Émile Coué introduced them in his therapy method called ‘optimistic suggestion’. His most known affirmation was:

“Every day, in every way, I’m getting better and better!”

Affirmations have gained a lot of popularity over past centuries thanks to spiritual teachers of New Thought movement, and teachings on Universal Laws, Law Of Attraction, the power of the subconscious mind, and documentary movie “The Secret”. 

Although affirmations are, with no doubt, a powerful tool for changing our beliefs, and if used regularly, they can help us in increasing self worth and self confidence, we need to have in mind that just by repeating a few affirmations a few times a day, might not be enough, because everything that we say and every thought that we think throughout the day – is an affirmation! We are ‘affirming’ and manifesting 24/7! 

Therefor, if we want to increase our self worth, self love, and self confidence, it is very important to oversee our self talk, our thoughts about ourselves and our life, and our everyday communication. Along with using the affirmations we resonate with, we need to replace our negative self talk with empowering self talk, start talking about ourselves more positively, and let go of self criticism, because every negative word or thought about ourselves will ‘affirm’ how unworthy we are.

Affirmations work more effectively if we speak them with conviction, and therefor it can be useful to use the affirmations that feel more realistic to us. For example, if we want to manifest money, and we are in very tough financial situation, affirming “I am multimillionaire’ may seem way out of our reach, possibility, and ‘far from being real’. In that case, it might feel more realistic to affirm: ‘I am open for creative opportunities to earn more money’, or ‘I am adopting a millionaire mindset’, or break a million dollar goal into smaller ‘chunks’ and then affirm ‘I am now earning 10000(0) $ per month in my business’, and then gradually increase the amount. 

Similarly, when we work on increasing our self confidence, it may not feel realistic for us to affirm ‘I am an amazing speaker on the stage’, ‘I am the most confident person I know!’. It may sound more realistic to affirm: ‘My confidence is increasing every day’, or ‘As my communications skills are improving more and more every day, I am becoming better speaker!’, or ‘I believe in myself more and more every day!’.

Affirmations can be spoken out loud in from of the mirror, or throughout of the day. You can write them down in your journal or morning planner. You can also add them onto your vision board, or wear T-shirts, or necklaces or bracelets with messages like “SELF LOVE”, “LOVE”, “LOVE YOURSELF”, “YOU ARE WORTHY”, ‘I AM ENOUGH’.

Affirmations for increasing self worth, self love and self confidence:

I love myself more and more each day.

I am worthy.

I am worthy of love.

I am worthy of happiness.

I am worthy of success.

I deserve to be paid well for the value I contribute with my work.

I now charge my worth. 

I am enough.

More I respect myself, more others people respect me.

I am deeply grateful for my body, my health, and my unique talents.

I deserve everything good that comes to me.

I chose to honour my boundaries and stand up for myself.

I set healthy boundaries in my relationships. 

I value myself and my time.

I love the person who I am becoming.

More I love myself, more love I can give to other people.

When I take good care of me, I can take care of others better.


Affirmations & Afformations

Author Noah St. John, in “The Book of Afformations®: Discovering the Missing Piece to Abundant Health, Wealth, Love, and Happiness” suggests converting affirmations into empowering questions, in order to make them more believable and induce our mind to ‘look for’ the solutions, answers, and creative ideas. For example, afformations for increasing self worth could be:
“Why I am worthy of success, happiness, and abundance?”
“Why I deserve…?”
“Why I value myself and my time?”
“Why do I feel more and more worthy every day?”
Along with using affirmations, it is very important to be aware of our self talk (words that we are telling to ourselves and about ourselves all the time), and to do the inner work on reprogramming any limiting beliefs that we ma be having about our worth and what is possible for us. If you want to dive deeper in this powerful, next level transformation process, my upcoming book “Self Worth – Women’s Guide To Increasing Self Worth, Self Respect, and Self Confidence”  is for you. 

(The book is currently available in Bosnian language Ja Vrijedim‘, in digital form on PayHip and on Google Books – in 60+ supported countries, in my native language. English version will be coming soon! If you want to learn more about increasing your self wroth, self confidence, and self love, you can check out my online course on Udemy Life Coaching For Women – Change Your Life In 6 Weeks).

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